Fear. We Don’t like it, but we can so easily attach ourselves to it.

Despite the fact that I seem to thrive on extreme trail races and become exhilarated at times by deciding to move forward when there seems to be a great risk, I don’t like the feeling of “being afraid”.
Maybe my actions are caused by a deeply hidden belief that constant risk may the only way to dumb down the emotions that result from being afraid. It’s probably just conditioned response;, I’m learning that what usually causes fear, doesn’t generally hurt me, and makes me feel so much more alive that I’m talking about it for days.

And what if it does hurt me? It’s unlikely I’ll die and I know I’ll find a way to recover. I’ll overcome it. Like pulling off a bandaid, I know it will hurt, but I can only know how much after pulling it off.

Fear is necessary. Fear is part of our being. It’s considered to be needed for our survival as a species and I have no doubt that to be true: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-preservation

What bothers me is that fear is so often used to manipulate us. And fear can be transformed in to dislike or even hatred. It’s natural to hate what we fear or don’t understand.

The problem is, it’s sometimes impossible to know when our fear is being used against us.

As an example, ask yourself these questions:

Would you be afraid to go the Sochi to watch the Olympics?

Should you be?

If I had the money, time and resources, I’d be there in a heartbeat. Why? Because, it’s very possible that it would be no more dangerous than visiting Los Angeles, Chicago or Miami, (and I Love Chicago), but then again- if we never make the trip, how will we ever know?

~ Cheers!

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What Would You Do If There Was Nothing You Had To Do?

Imagine. You wake up slowly one morning. No alarm. Just lay there a bit. There’s nothing in your calendar. You haven’t agreed to meet with anyone or go anywhere today. You lay there a little while longer just daydreaming about “whatever”. You get up, brush your teeth, shower and dress. Now- What you you do?

Doesn’t the idea seem inviting? I’m excited just thinking about it. In fact, I’m going to leave one day each quarter open to be one of these days. I hope I can pull it off. If that works out, I may add a second or third. If you can’t find me one day, maybe that’s why.

~Cheers!

Is the arrival of “Big Data” just the incarnation of “Big Brother”?

In the 60’s, the term Big Brother was used as another word for organizations we “hippies” were suspicious of spying on us. Most of the time, it was used in reference to the US Government. The term originated in the George Orwell novel “Nineteen Eighty-Four”

It could usually be written off as just a paranoia. I mean, it was the 60’s, how could “Somebody” be secretly looking over our shoulder, spying on whatever it was that we were up to? We hadn’t even landed on the moon yet!

Just a stupid paranoia then, but it’s a different story now. It’s not hard to believe that somebody, somewhere, is scanning over our full profile.

I know that today it isn’t just my imagination and it’s not just me. There’s a few world leaders are feeling that same paranoia right now.

I’m numb to it. I think most of us are.

“My God it’s full of Stars!”, coincidence or prophecy? …

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The movie 2001 A Space Odyssey, as you would expect from Stanley Kubrick, was way ahead of it’s time. The movie begins and ends with deep-thought provoking scenes involving an image described as a “Monolith”. This image is more than just a prop. It’s playing a silent and ominous role in the movie.

In the book by Arthur C. Clarke, but left out of the original movie, The famous line “My God, it’s full of stars!” uttered by Dave Bowman as he peered into the monolith, was never really explained. It was left for the reader/viewer’s playground of imagination to decide the author’s true meaning of the phrase.

Up early one morning, plagued by insomnia, I caught the end of the movie. As I watched the mysterious bedroom scene near the end, I had a thought: Is it just coincidence that the image referred to as “the Monolith“, and the iPhone 5, are so similar in shape and proportion? Maybe it just “happened”, but as I see more and more examples of how everything in the universe is connected, it does cause me to wonder……

After all, it is indeed, “full of stars“.

~ Cheers!

The Paradox of Our Time..

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I have been struggling lately with having time to write. My days, although good, seem to be overflowing with things that I need to address, or should but sometimes just can’t get to. I just read this piece written by George Carlin today and felt compelled to re-post it here:

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. 

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom”

Note: George Carlin may not have been the original author of this text, but without him, we would not know of it.

This was posted on facebook by my best friend from High School. I think it’s time I blow off one of my seemingly urgent tasks and find a day to have a beer with him.

~Cheers

When it’s time for a change

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Has it been a good week, a good month, and a good year for you so far?

Forget about the bad day you had yesterday or the day before. We can’t judge how we’re doing by a single day or two. It’s a given that we will have bad days. Even if we were “gazillionaires” living on a tropical island, it’s not reasonable to believe that every day or moment would be easy. It’s the sum total of what the days, weeks and months look like that matters. It’s how you see them when they are all spread out in front of you and then totaled up.

It’s time for a change when that total is in the red. When looking back at the days and reviewing the total give you that queasy feeling in your stomach. When you start to feel the walls closing in, it means you’ve reached the tipping point and you need to accept that it’s time for a change of course.

Deciding what that change needs to be is the hard part. Understanding that it’s needed, and must take place, is not.

IF you realize it’s time for a change, don’t dread it. Think of it as an exciting time. A time for exploration and maybe even rebirth. This is the one time when you truly own the journey.

I believe we always know the right direction to take. If you just pay attention, you’ll see it and when you do, move on it without hesitation. Navigate towards your dreams with purpose and passion.

I think it helps me to remember two pieces of advice given by Steven Pressfield who wrote: “Trust the soup”, and “start before you are ready”. 

~Cheers!

Social Threads..

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I read an exciting post on Twitter this week. Two friends that I didn’t know, and I don’t believe knew each other at the end of 2011, are getting married. I’m really happy for them!

I’ll call them Slick and Ben, because that’s how I know them to be called. Here’s how we met:

It all began an awards ceremony that was being held to honor the local “who’s who” of social media. This annual awards ceremony is the creation of our local social media fairy godmother, Amy Stark. Amy puts a ton of work into this event, and except for what help she gets from some kind sponsors, she does so at her own expense. We all owe her a lot for all that she does to make it such a great success!

As I remember it, I was talking to a couple of people I had just met when a young girl walked up and said “Hi, my name’s Slick. I’m new here and just wanted to introduce myself around”. That’s Slick. Very friendly, free spirited and comfortable in her own skin. Slick and I were “friends” on Facebook and following each other on Twitter before the evening was through. I’m sure that many, if not all of the others in attendance were as well- Very nice girl.

While it’s likely that Ben was in the room that day, I didn’t meet him until months later. I first met Ben after we had traded some messages, then direct messages through Twitter, and then later through LinkedIn. We met over coffee one morning at Duncan Donuts. I try to keep my true identity a secret when it comes to that particular Twitter handle, and Ben had agreed to keep my secret. Ben is a great supporter of our community. His efforts to promote urban Indy events are well known and much appreciated- Very nice guy.

Back to today- It only seems appropriate that it was through Twitter that I learned that Ben had proposed (there was a pic of the proposal), and Slick had accepted .

After all, if it weren’t for Twitter, I wouldn’t know either of them. I could be wrong, but in some way, it may the reason they ever met in the first place.

These are two really great people. I am very happy for them. I am also very grateful for the threads of social media that weave through all of our lives these days. It’s truly enriched my life and if you’re reading this, it probably has yours as well.

Congrats Ben and Slick!

~Cheers!

Where did the day go?

I don’t really remember much of it.

Why do some days seem like a blur when they’re over? If I try, I’m sure that I can at least a few things out of my day.

I remember:

My first cup of morning coffee.

Good morning greetings and well wishes for a great day from my friends on Twitter.

Lunch with a good friend.

A quick chat with my son as I drove home.

Being greeted at the door by my wife and a happy canine friend.

A nice dinner followed by an evening cup of tea. 

That’s pretty much all that happened today….It might have been a blur, but nevertheless, it sure left behind some seemingly small but unforgettably special memories .

~Cheers

A new week, a fresh start…

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I’m looking forward to the new week. It’s always a great feeling to have a fresh start, and for me, this week is just that. No left over problems or baggage from last week. That’s certainly not always the case for any of us, but it is for me this week, and I’m feeling blessed.

I made some mistakes last week, and I’ve forgiven myself for those, whatever they were. Negative feelings from the past don’t belong in the present and they’re certainly not going to play a part my the future.

So here’s to a new week, a clean slate, meeting new people and enjoying life-

~Cheers!

Does anyone really go to Starbucks for the Coffee?

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LegsI don’t.

I go there for the feeling that I get when I walk in the place……..and because it smells good too.

I go there because they have free wi-fi, it’s always warm in the winter, cool in the summer and the baristas always seem to like me no matter what city I’m in.

I like the kind of people that hang out there.

I want to be there. I want to sit at a small table or on an upholstered chair with a with a half caf, non-fat, no whip, Venti Mocha. I want to have ear-buds streaming my favorite Neil Young songs to my ears while I’m busily working on my laptop.

If I’ve described it well, it’s because it’s a familiar scene. One from my own memory. I love it there!

I could go to McDonald’s, not close. Or I could go to Panera, I love Panera, but still not close. It’s got to be Starbucks. A simple satisfying experience in a non-commercial atmosphere.

Does Starbucks have good coffee? Yes- they have Great Coffee and I buy it. But it’s not like I’m really there to buy the coffee. I’m buying the experience.

~ Cheers.